| 1: liberation |
- deeply trustworthy, emotionally available and bonded with others
- provide support and guidance and access own inner guidance
- feels supported by reality
- let go of forced security and self-image
- let go of belief that they have to rely on something/one outside themselves.
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| 2: psychological capacity |
- reliable, engaging, trust-seeking
- “i am a committed, responsible and dependable person”
- emphasize reliability, trustworthiness, caution and questioning
- reject their own inner guidance
- basic fear: having no support and guidance
- basic desire: to find security and support.
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| 3: social value |
- relate to others through cooperation, commitment and reliability
- feel that they are good when all bases are covered and they are doing what is expected of them
- desire: to create and sustain security systems
- strategy: reinforce self-image through cooperation and commitment.
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| wake-up call |
depending on something outside myself for guidance |
| 4: imbalance (social role) |
- tend to depend on someone or something outside self for guidance
- strong sense of camaraderie, obligation, faith, and doubt
- desire reinforcement of their security and support.
- take on social role of the responsible implementer.
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| 5: interpersonal control |
- manipulate others by testing their loyalty and trust
- fear (shadow) arises when they believe they are losing their support
- insists on being seen as dependable and responsible
- desire to resist demands or commitments.
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| 6: overcompensation |
- feel that their trust has been betrayed
- stubborn, rebellious
- blaming, cynical, short-tempered (us vs them mentality)
- desire to prove their strength, value, and independence
- undermine others and support systems by blaming and scapegoating.
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| red flag fear |
my own actions have harmed my security |
| 7: violation |
- lean heavily on support systems
- little initiative and avoid responsibility
- disparage self, hoping to illicit pity or rescue
- desire to be rescued by strong ally
- violate self-image of responsible implementer through defiance to others.
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