| active listening / listening actively |
a way of listening and responding to
another
person that fosters mutual understanding |
| archetype |
a symbolic representation of the tritype as a whole |
| awareness |
the ground of all existence and experience |
| awareness of awareness |
conscious relationship with the ground of all existence and experience |
| bare attention |
a form of attention which allows us to experience the world with less interpretation, and more
direct perception. |
| being-knowing |
a knowing that is based in awareness, rather than being merely conceptual; can be used as a synonym for
"awareness" |
| blind spot |
an aspect of the personality that is hidden from consciousness |
| closed-ended questions |
questions that constrain response, e.g. yes or no questions |
| cognitive distortion(s) |
habitual ways of thinking that are inaccurate and usually negative |
| counter-phobic |
seeking out feared situations. in Enneagram terms, counter-phobic sixes are the ones who move towards that
which is
feared |
| defense mechanism |
an automatic- and often unconscious- protective measure employed by the psyche under conditions of perceived
stress or
trauma |
| disintegration |
the process of fragmentation (moving from higher to lower functioning) that can occur during stress or
trauma |
| distorting filters |
habitual and often unconscious patterns of interpretation that lead to inaccurate perceptions of reality
|
| emotional holding |
the ability to acknowlege and be with emotion- ours or others'- without becoming dysregulated |
| emotional intelligence |
a form of social intelligence that involves the ability to monitor one's own and others' feelings and
emotions, to
disriminate amongst them, and to use this inforation to guide one's thinking and behaviour |
| empathic listening |
a way of listening that attempts to feel into the perspective and experience of the other (listening with an
open heart) |
| empathy |
the ability to accurately perceive and occupy (feel with) another's perspective and feeling state, and
respond
accordingly |
| Enneagram |
a system of personality types and their inter-relationships, based on a nine-sided geometric figure that has
its roots
in several ancient wisdom traditions |
| extravert |
someone who tends to focus on their external experience |
| five hindrances (sensory desire, ill-will, torpor, restlessness, doubt) |
unwholesome states of mind that preclude or dilute mindfulness, namely sensory desire, ill will, torpor,
restlessness/worry, and doubt |
| five ways (Shinzen Young) (focus in - bare attention - knowing; focus out - zazen - being;
focus on rest - jhanas -
healing; focus on change - impermanence - insight; focus on positive - maitri - love) |
integration of practices from several Buddhist traditions by Shinzen Young. the five ways are focun in,
focus out, focus
on rest, focus on change, and focus on positive |
| fixation |
an obsessive feeling about or interest in someone or something |
| growth edge |
an area of potential integration that is within our reach, but may require some processing of fears,
defenses, or resistance to lean into |
| homeostasis |
tendency towards- and ability to maintain- equilibrium or balance |
| identification |
unconscious modelling of one's self on another's character and behaviour |
| incongruence (in relation to sender distortions) |
a mis-match between our internal state and our external behaviours, including speech |
| indifference (as one of the three poisons) |
|
| integration (psychological) |
the maturing process through which the individual psyche heals from trauma, adapts to change, and expands
its
own capacity |
| integration lines |
the lines of the Enneagram geometric figure that map out the stress and release points |
| intelligences (action/instinctual, emotional, intellectual |
our three systems of accessing reality. in the Enneagram, each intelligence corresponds to three personality
types |
| introjection |
identifying with another so strongly that their personality/beliefs etc are absorbed or assiilated
unconsciously |
| introvert |
someone who tends to focus on their internal experience |
| jhanas |
in Buddhism, the jhanas are states of one-pointed absorption. |
| kenosis |
"emptiness" or self-emptying as described in the Christian Contemplative tradition |
| leading questions |
questions that imply the desired response, e.g. "do you really want to go to that awful stuffy restaurant?"
|
| loving-kindness |
active good will towards all living beings |
| maitri |
Sanskrit term for loving-kindness, benevolence, or friendliness |
| meditation |
a practice or state that reveals our true nature as awareness |
| meditation in action |
bringing our meditation practice and its manifestations into our daily situations; dissolving the imagined
distinction
between the "spiritual" and "non-spiritual" aspects of our lives |
| mindfulness |
a practice or state characterised by nonjudgmental awareness of experience |
| mirror (mirroring) |
matching someone else's behaviour, be it their words, tone of voice, or gestures |
| narcotization |
using forms of action (e.g. sleep, eating, gaming etc) to tune out from feelings and reality |
| no big deal |
ascribing value to our experience leads to the fear of having it or losing it. through the practice, we
develop a "no big deal" attitude, not in a cynical way, but in a light-hearted and flexible way. |
| object (of mind, of meditation) |
a focal point that helps the mind to come to rest (e.g. the breath) |
| open-ended questions |
questions that allow freedom of response, e.g. "how do you feel about that?" |
| overcompensation |
overachieving or over-focusing in one area to cover up for difficulties in another area |
| paraphrase |
repeating a statement in one's own words whilst conveying the original essence or meaning |
| personality |
a collection of character traits that are stable and consistent over time |
| personality integration |
the process of intergating the mature forms of our own personality type and of other types |
| personality type |
a collection of personality traits that are stable and consistent over time (typically measured by a
persinality test or
inventory) |
| personalization (cognitive distortion) |
a cognitive distortion in which we interpret the behaviour and/or utterances of others as saying something
about us when
this is not the case |
| phobic |
having extreme fear or aversion to someone or something. in Enneagram terms, phobic sixes are the ones who
move away
from that which is feared |
| projection |
attribution of one's own conflicted thoughts or emotions to another person or group |
| psychology |
the study of the mind and behaviour (how we think, feel, and act) |
| RAIN practice (recognize, accept, investigate, not identify) |
an acronym describing a practice that helps us to bring mindfulness into reactive situations: Recognise,
Accept,
Investigate, Non-identify |
| rationalization |
justifying disturbing or unacceptable thought, emotion, or behaviour by finding a self-serving
pseudo-logical
explanation for it |
| reaction formation |
acting the opposite of how one feels (e.g. smiling when angry) |
| reactive |
a state in which we act (or "react") defensively. the opposite of responsive |
| receiver distortions |
distortions of communication caused by inaccurate or sub-optimal interpretation of presented information
|
| reflective listening / reflective inquiry |
a way of listening that is open to differing ideas and opinions (listening with an open mind), but does not
yet include
emotion |
| release point |
the type (in its mature form) that describes our behaviour when we are high-functioning. as with the stress
point, each
type has a specific release point |
| repression |
"pushing down" unwanted thoughts or feelings into the unconscious |
| restate |
state again |
| right action (virtue) |
action that flows from a balance of wisdom and compassion |
| self-awareness |
the ability to accurately perceive and name our own emotions and internal dynamics |
| self-reference |
relating communication back to our own experience in a way that prevents deepening the connection |
| self-regulation |
one of the four aspects of emotional intelligence and the process through which we learn to adapt to
situations without
habitual reaction. |
| self-soothing |
the ability to calm or ground ourselves when we feel anxious or distressed |
| sender distortions |
distortions of communication caused by inaccurate or sub-optimal presentation of information |
| seven factors of awakening (mindfulness, curiosity, energy, joy, focus, equanimity,
tranquility) |
mindfulness, curiosity, energy, joy, focus, equanimity, tranquility |
| shadow |
the unconscious part of the personality that the ego does not want to own or identify with ("shadow" is also
sometimes
used to describe the entire unconscious) |
| shadow work |
the process of integrating (making conscious) our shadow |
| social awareness |
the ability to accurately assess another's feelings or thoughts, even if they are different from yours |
| state |
|
| stress point |
the type (in its immature form) that describes our behavour when we are under stress. it is different from
the primary
type, and each type has a specific stress point (e.g. for type 1 the stress point is type 4) |
| three poisons of attachment |
|
| trigger |
a reminder of a past trauma or painful dynamic that can activate a defensive reaction |
| trimergence |
the confluence of the three intelligences, namely action (intuition), thinking (logic), and feeling
(emotion) |
| tritype |
consists of the primary type and the dominant type in each of the two centres (action, feeling, and
thinking) other than
the primary type centre |
| type (primary type) |
in Ennea terms, the type that best describes or most closely correlates with one's personality |
| unconscious |
outisde of conscious awareness (adjective/adverb); the part of the psyche that is not available to conscious
awareness,
but that can drive emotions and behaviour |
| wing |
the two types adjacent to the primary type (for type 3, the wings would be 2 and 4) |
| witnessing |
the capacity to be aware of the workings inside awareness |
| zazen |
Zen meditation practice |
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