| 1: liberation |
- wise, accepting, noble, kind, realistic
- strong integrity and in balance with world
- deep faith in universe unfolding as perfection
- let go of forced goodness and self-image
- let go of belief that anything can be judged objectively.
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| 2: psychological capacity |
- reasonable, conscientious, and sensible
- “i am sensible, moderate and objective”
- emphasize reason, moderation, morality, and objectivity
- reject indulgence, subjectivity, and self-interest
- basic fear: being bad or corrupt
- basic desire: to be good, have integrity, and be mentally balanced.
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| 3: social value |
- relate to others primarily by being responsible and principled
- feel that they have a mission in life, that there is no time for fooling around, and that being good
means doing what is
right
- desire: to act according to conscience and reason
- strategy: reinforce and demonstrate self-image through doing good things.
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| wake-up call |
feeling a sense of obligation to fix everything myself |
| 4: imbalance (social role) |
- feel intense personal obligation to do the right thing
- striving, idealistic
- strong desire to improve self and the world
- take on social role of moral teacher
- need to convince others of “rightness.”
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| 5: interpersonal control |
- manipulate and control others by correcting them
- angry (shadow) when world is not arranged according to their “should”
- insists on being seen as reasonable and objective
- attached to consistent order in inner and outer world.
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| 6: overcompensation |
- perfectionist, opiniated, “right/wrong” thinking, impatient, fault-finding
- want to criticize others for not meeting the one’s standards
- undermine by angry criticism, treating others as if they are defective or bad.
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| red flag fear |
my ideals are actually wrong and counter-productive |
| 7: violation |
- inflexible, intolerant, and self-righteous
- unreasonably harsh with others, bitter and depressed
- want to justify themselves by demeaning others
- violate their self-image of moral teacher.
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